A regular pregnancy and and non-adoption situation: you just spent 9-10 months developing in a womb, getting to know a certain heartbeat and learning that hearing and feeling it feels good, safe. After you are born, you experience new things that overwhelm you and make you upset. Your mom lifts you up and holds you tight. You hear the heartbeat that says you’re safe and feel it against your cheek. This is the same person that kept you safe before you were born.
An adopted situation: you just spent 9-10 months developing in a womb, getting to know a certain heartbeat and learning that hearing and feeling it feels good, safe. After you are born, you experience new things that overwhelm you and make you upset. Your mom (adoptive mom who will teach you to say “mom” to get her attention and you will love her like nobody else) lifts you up and holds you tight. You hear *a* heartbeat that is trying to say you’re safe and you feel it against your cheek. This is not the same person that kept you safe before you were born…but she is wonderful.